[PDF / Epub] ❤ Sleeping Through the Night: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep ✅ Jodi A. Mindell – Sisnlaw.co.uk

Sleeping Through the Night: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep After listening to Jodi Mindell on the One Bad Mother podcast, I decided to get her book As this is a topic I have read and heard about before, I found myself skimming a bunch here but I think these sorts of books are made to skim, with easily trackable topics So, let s say, you have a newborn, you can skip all the stuff about toddlers or if you have a night owl, you can skip the section on early risers.Whatever you skip, you ll find the message the same throughout the book it s up to you, After listening to Jodi Mindell on the One Bad Mother podcast, I decided to get her book As this is a topic I have read and heard about before, I found myself skimming a bunch here but I think these sorts of books are made to skim, with easily trackable topics So, let s say, you have a newborn, you can skip all the stuff about toddlers or if you have a night owl, you can skip the section on early risers.Whatever you skip, you ll find the message the same throughout the book it s up to you, the parent, to set the structure that your child needs, but also, do whatever works for your baby and your family to get to that structure, whatever it is Mindell has a huge amount of data and a strong idea about what s best, but she s never judgy and always humane.Now, to thinkabout this and work out a structure that actually works for Henry, my three month old It seems as though the author wrote this book with all of my parenting advice pet peeves in mind.1 A recent study showed What study Who conducted it How large was the dataset What did their statistical model look like It is no longer acceptable to fail to cite sources in a book which relies on science for its credibility 2 Unverifiable and unsupported assertion stated as incontrovertible fact , e.g Babies over three months of age can get all the nutrition they need during the day It seems as though the author wrote this book with all of my parenting advice pet peeves in mind.1 A recent study showed What study Who conducted it How large was the dataset What did their statistical model look like It is no longer acceptable to fail to cite sources in a book which relies on science for its credibility 2 Unverifiable and unsupported assertion stated as incontrovertible fact , e.g Babies over three months of age can get all the nutrition they need during the day What leads you to believe that Do you have any reason to believe it 3 An anecdote about Adam, which will lead you to think your problems are the same as everyone else s These are so numerous in this book that I wouldn t be surprised if over a third of the textual matter was simply anecdotes from parents who may or may not be entirely fictitious Anecdotes are not helpful They don t serve any purpose in a book of this kind, except to give the illusion that the author is experienced because she has either a Actually surveyed a few people for the sleep problems their child might have OR b Made up a few of stories about said people.It s genuinely impossible to know which alternative is at work here, because the author seems to be relying on her PhD to provide evidence of the veracity of her claims, rather than the anecdotes themselves which are clearly heavily edited, being in the third person and generally in no way resembling actual conversation or testimony.Avoid books on infant sleep problems There aren t any good ones Right After Is It A Boy Or A Girl And What S His Her Name , The Next Question People Invariably Ask New Parents Is Are You Getting Any Sleep Unfortunately, The Answer Is Usually Not Much In Fact, Studies Show That Approximately % Of Young Children Experience Some Type Of Sleep Problem And, As Any Bleary Eyed Parent Will Attest, It Is One Of The Most Difficult Challenges Of ParentingDrawing On Her Ten Years Of Experience In The Assessment And Treatment Of Common Sleep Problems In Children, Dr Jodi A Mindell Now Provides Tips And Techniques, The Answers To Commonly Asked Questions, And Case Studies And Quotes From Parents Who Have Successfully Solved Their Children S Sleep ProblemsUnlike Other Books On The Subject, Dr Mindell Also Offers Practical Tips On Bedtime, Rather Than Middle Of The Night Sleep Training, And Shows How All Members Of The Family Can Cope With The Stresses Associated With Teaching A Child To Sleep 4 stars Parenting I m not sure how helpful or applicable the sleep training methodology will be, but I really liked the detailed information and practical advice on behavioral management. I m pretty burnt out on infant sleep as a subject in general but I do like this one It incorporates breastfeeding asthan an afterthought and isrealistic than other things I ve read Nothing earth shattering here but definitely a balanced and nurturing approach that is sensitive to how the parent responds and how different babies may respond Not a one size fits all approach that so many other books provide. I was at a friend and fellow mother s house yesterday, bemoaning the fact that my 8 month old doesn t sleep through the night ever and she told me about this book and let me borrow it I ve read a fair amount of parenting sleeping books in my almost 3 years as a parent, but had never heard of this one After reading it in a day although I did skip over the parts that don t apply to us , I m convinced that this may, in fact, be the best book about getting your child to sleep Nothing in it w I was at a friend and fellow mother s house yesterday, bemoaning the fact that my 8 month old doesn t sleep through the night ever and she told me about this book and let me borrow it I ve read a fair amount of parenting sleeping books in my almost 3 years as a parent, but had never heard of this one After reading it in a day although I did skip over the parts that don t apply to us , I m convinced that this may, in fact, be the best book about getting your child to sleep Nothing in it was revolutionary, or extreme It was just good, solid advice, using mainly the graduated extinction method I already kind of knew what we were doing wrong with our son, but reading this reinforced what I already knew and gave me tools to make a plan I did learn a few new things, however The best part about this book is that the author isn t preachy or extreme in her views and advice, which is so refreshing I m quite sick of child rearing books telling me that I m going to mess up my child for life if I do this or that, and that the only way to be a good parent is by doing exactly what the author tells me to This author gives great, grounded advice and guidelines, but realizes that every child is different and every family has different styles I feel like I was given tools without being held at gunpoint to use them Upgrading my review to five stars because you know why This is one of the only baby sleep books that actually addresses parents mental health as if it s worth thinking about in the baby sleep discussion I found that incredibly helpful at the time which I can barely remember due to sleep deprivation. Jodi Mendell helped save my household from an enormous amount of potential frustration Her deliberate but sensitive approach to sleep and sleep training for families with young children was much needed With her help my wife and I were able to hash out a game plan to work aintentional sleep schedule into our household And we did it Not without some struggles and not perfectly, but still, what a help this was After 3 or 4 nights of sleep training my daughter was muchcomfortable in Jodi Mendell helped save my household from an enormous amount of potential frustration Her deliberate but sensitive approach to sleep and sleep training for families with young children was much needed With her help my wife and I were able to hash out a game plan to work aintentional sleep schedule into our household And we did it Not without some struggles and not perfectly, but still, what a help this was After 3 or 4 nights of sleep training my daughter was muchcomfortable in her bed than she had been for months I would recommend this book to any parent who wants to readabout sleep training or who is at the end of their rope with what to do about sleep I found Jodi Mendell to bepractical and less rigid than Ferber, yet with a similar approach to sleep I only read the sections that I felt pertained to my daughter at 5 months The section about bedrooms, bedtimes, and bedtime routines was useful Most of the suggestions, consistent routine, same time, a lovey, were things I already had going The idea of negative and positive sleep associations is helpful Negative sleep associations are anything that would require a parent to assist the baby in falling asleep rocking, nursing, singing, cuddling, etc Positive associations are things that wou I only read the sections that I felt pertained to my daughter at 5 months The section about bedrooms, bedtimes, and bedtime routines was useful Most of the suggestions, consistent routine, same time, a lovey, were things I already had going The idea of negative and positive sleep associations is helpful Negative sleep associations are anything that would require a parent to assist the baby in falling asleep rocking, nursing, singing, cuddling, etc Positive associations are things that would still be present during a middle of the night waking a lovey, a pacifier, a night light, a consistent enviroment I was already on the right track with a routine, a consistent environment, putting the baby to bed drowsy but awake, and by keeping the baby in her bedroom during middle of the night wakings Basically, no rewarding the baby by bringing her back out to hang out with us once I ve decided it s bedtime.Unlike the author, at 5 months old I don t expect my daughter to go all night without feeding The book suggests that all babies wake naturally and all they need is a the ability to self soothe herself back to sleep I m pretty sure my child needs to eat Seriously lady, 12 hours without eating, come on I think the idea of creating positive sleep assocations is worthwhile, but the promises that after just 2 weeks of implementing a consistent bed time routine with the final step being putting the baby to bed awake, that the baby will sleep through the night is far fetched.Warning Dr Mindell is a cry it out advocate She does soften it a little by suggesting parents take small steps that parents are comfortable with during sleep training, even if that means going in to reassure the baby every 30 seconds But, once you start sleep training with crying you can t turn back as you ll only make things worse you ll basically have taught your child to cry rather than sleep.In general, I m lucky my child is not a crier anyway, she doesn t freak out when I leave her in her crib by herself She just humms while sucking her pacifier until she falls asleep Hopefully as the author suggests, by 6 or 7 months she ll be able to retrieve her own pacifier when it falls out That will help us both sleep This book has a lot of the same suggestions as Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child but is muchorganized and focused on giving advice on how to deal with specific sleep issues HSHHC gave a lotinformation on what was happening with baby biologically when she s tired or sleeping STTN is muchhelpful in trying to form a plan when faced with several sleep issues, identifying which issues are best to work with first such as focusing on bedtime rather than naptimes, etc Mindell does r This book has a lot of the same suggestions as Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child but is muchorganized and focused on giving advice on how to deal with specific sleep issues HSHHC gave a lotinformation on what was happening with baby biologically when she s tired or sleeping STTN is muchhelpful in trying to form a plan when faced with several sleep issues, identifying which issues are best to work with first such as focusing on bedtime rather than naptimes, etc Mindell does recommend graduated extinction though which so far I ve been trying to avoid, but I think she still has a lot of helpful advice and information

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